Listen to what led up to
Rita's imprisonment, what a hoot...pay particular attention to how Andy Hardin
browbeats a Female Gwinnett Officer: Just more nonsense, stupid 911 calls coming
soon, Andy & Melissa gave their address and telephone numbers to the 911
operators and I have to delete this shit out before you can listen to this crap,
except for this [oops I'm having technical difficulties deleting their address
and phone numbers off the audio, but I have a new mac program coming up for your
entertainment pleasure. In the interim, here's the
transcript: 911
more to come...
Ewell describes him [ex-husband Bruce McMahan] as an egomaniac who lives his
life in a series of ongoing sagas. The drama he creates feeds his ego and shapes
the story of his life, she says. "When you live with someone like that, it's not
fun when you challenge them."
-- Melinda Ewell
"This is not the end. It is not even the
beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning."
-- Winston
Churchill
"...jailed often on nonsense offenses"
--
John Sugg
Bingo! There's another word
for it. It's called
'Mobbing' in Continental Europe. In the United States it's called 'Bullying'
and guess what? It's
illegal in Sweden and France.
California,
Massachusetts and Iowa; the Department of Environmental Quality for the State of
Oregon has established the first anti-mobbing policy in the U.S.; efforts to add
new anti-mobbing legislation are under way in California
Currently, the French Penal Code
prohibits both "sexual harassment" and "moral harassment" [mobbing] which is
defined as a violation of dignity, a danger to health, and a form of
discrimination. The prohibited conduct does not necessarily have to be related
to the gender of the victim. From
Penal Code of the Republic of France, Article 222-33-2.
Regulation bullyingis where
a serial bully forces their target to comply with rules, regulations,
procedures or laws regardless of their appropriateness, applicability or
necessity.
Legal bullying- the
bringing of a vexatious legal action to control and punish a person - is one
of the nastiest forms of bullying.
The disordered thinking processes
of the criminal / antisocial mind are succinctly described in Stanton E
Samenow's book Straight talk about criminals. For example:
"Certain people who I term non-arrestable
criminals behave criminally towards others , but they are sufficiently fearful
[and knowledgeable of the law - TF] so that they do not commit major
crimes. We all know them: individuals who shamelessly use others to gain
advantage for themselves. Having little empathy, they single-mindedly pursue
their objectives and have little remorse for the injuries they inflict. If
others take them to task, they become indignant and self-righteous and blame
circumstances. Such people share much in common with the person who makes crime
a way of life. Although they may not have broken the law, they nonetheless
victimize others."
(Chapter 8, The criminal mind exists independent of particular laws, culture or
customs)
"A saga of inconsistencies, distortions and outright
lies"
Mr Fitzgerald said of Mr Libby's indictment:
"When citizens testify before grand juries, they are
required to tell the truth. Without the truth, our
criminal justice system cannot serve our nation or
its
citizens. The requirement to tell the truth
applies equally to all citizens, including persons
who hold
high positions in government."
Taped 911 call by Rita's
ex-husband's wife "she's trying to take herchildren away from us."
No
she wasn't. Mom just wanted to sit by her son
"unfettered" court sanctioned visitation at
extra-curricular activities.
Mom
Arrested By Ex After Her Son's Ballgame (Part 1)
In a sad tale that shows how difficult life can get
when ex-spouses don't get along, divorced mom Rita
Hardin talks about how her ex and his wife had her
arrested for attending her son's ballgame.
"[B]ut my favorite
Prosecutor told me the squeaky wheel get the notice
and attention - so I am being SQUEAKY today." --Melissa
Martinelli-Hardin, 2nd Wives
Club
The Second Wives ClubThis is a
support group for second wives. "In theory, I support
the idea--there are special needs and problems that
second wives (and husbands) have that could be addressed
through such a group. Unfortunately, this group
functions all too often as solidarity amongst select
women only to attack other women. They support MRAs who
are trying to get rid of child support and alimony
obligations, something that as Trish pointed out in an
email to me, works great for second wives until the
third wife comes along. Trish also sent me
this article which details issues that the Second Wives
Club is interested in, especially how they have
tried to push the itemization for child support, which
is essentially making it a requirement for women who
receive child support to account for how every penny is
spent to the ex-husband and his new wife lest she lose
the child support. The support for this particular bit
of nastiness is symptomatic of the justifications that a
lot of anti-feminist women use when sister-bashing,
which is that they can cast judgment on "bad" girls
because they are "good" girls--itemization means that
the ex-wife can be judged as a bad mother more easily."
Father's Rights groups teach men on how to drive up the cost of litigation
to the "restive" ex-wife by filing frivolous motions and false police reports.
"The spouse that first seeks a restraining order is in
a much better position. "
Against access to visitation joint custody orders, Douglas Andrew Hardin and Melissa Martinelli-Hardin
called a Gwinnett County officer,
KKKrista M. Davis, to arrest Rita Hardin while she
attended her 5-year-old son's baseball game. She was later arrested and jailed on two
counts of aggravated stalking charges, a felony in Georgia, which carries a
mandatory 10 year sentence.
At Rita's arraignment, Gwinnett Magistrate Judge Bob Mitchum agreed that
the Consent Order allowed Rita
to exercise
unfettered visitation, and said that he understood the Consent Order, that he
"got it," didn't find it at all confusing, that he saw this stuff in his private
practice all the time, and add that the
"police arrested the wrong
people."
After spending nine days in jail, Mitchum refused to send the case to Superior Court. Case dismissed.
So a week later, she was in jail again for the same
false charges and 911 calls made by Andy and Melissa Hardin. They're the ones who should be
in jail for filing false police reports, and so should their attorney Snellville
City Councilman, Warren Auld, who Melissa describes on the 2nd Wives Club
website, as instructing the Hardin's to call 911
when Rita shows up to attend her sons' extracurricular activities and to
exercise visitation. Criminy Rita spent almost a month in jail. Good thing she
has a sense of humor.
Happy Mother's Day, Rita!
How cruel can they get? Arrested again by
Krista Davis for exercising visitation, on the same bogus charges of stalking Melissa Hardin.
Their specious claims that Rita violated a Temporary Protective Order (TPO)
filed by
Andy and Melissa Hardin is contradicted by a Consent Order. Melissa runs around
Atlanta
area counties telling folks (and Rita's sons) that's she's afraid for her life,
that Rita wants to kill her baby, and that I'm a baby killer. And Danny Porter and Officer K.M.
Davis believe
this bullshit?
Here's what the guardian ad litum, who recommended that custody should NOT
changed from the mother to the father, had to say in under oath testimony:
"I haven't found anything that either party
has alleged to have
occurred that I think would rise to the level of any kind of change of
condition that would authorize a change in custody."
[...]
"I think he has been trying to control some of the things that
are going on in her life by trying to manipulate a lot of this behavior and by
bringing the police into it and having himself portrayed as a victim."
[...]
"I mean, I've seen
these cooperative parenting
agreements. They talk about let's communicate through e-mail,
let's only call my home, let's only do this, let's only
do that. So obviously there was a lot of crap going back
and forth regarding telephone between the two parties or these agreements
wouldn't have been reached. But the fact of it is, you people are
going to have to communicate with each other, because
these children are young and they've got -- I mean, the
youngest one's got 15 years till he graduates from high
school. Here we've got people testifying on the stand who spend every day
with this child that he tensed when here comes mom and stepmom.
This is a 5-year-old child and you people are doing this to this
child. I'm sorry, that's not my...But that's where we are. This is
about them. This is not about these kids."
[...]
"What's going to happen in the future is that they should both be
allowed to go to all the sporting events and their games and their
programs at school and their pack meetings and whatever it is they
get involved in. Both parents need to be there and both of you
need to be able to get along and not make the children feel like if they
go stand by one or the other that they they're going to tick off the
other parent and they're going to send them looks and make them feel bad
because a 5-year-old boy who is at school and is tense is proof that
it is happening and you have got to nip it in the bud."
CoMamas: (n) pl (1) Stepwives who
have learned to get along for the sake of the children…from now on.
"I seized the
opportunity to talk with my CoMama
at Saturday's baseball game. It went so well and I feel so much better
having more information about what is happening in my stepdaughter's life in her
other home. I'm really very aware right now of how the lack of information and
communication makes things more difficult. It's clearly the fears that keep the
"what you don't know can't hurt you" in place. Information is empowering and my
stepwife was great. I feel so fortunate. She appreciated my offer to help when
my stepdaughter was with me. She shared her struggles with her which are all
basically the same issues as we have here. She shared that consistency between
the houses in regard to rules and discipline will be forefront soon and I feel I
laid a foundation of support and an openness for the days, months, and years
ahead. My husband wasn't a part of our conversation on Saturday but he plans to
have his own discussion with her soon. Thank you for your support in every way.
You three always help me to find the courage to follow through with what I know
is right! " Signed, Forever grateful.
www.comamas.com
- The CoMamas Association, founded by the ex and current
wife of the same man who hated each other for 10 years,
along with an MFT, teaches ex-wives and stepmothers to
get along for the sake of the children. This site offers
an active message board, chatroom, free advice and a free
newsletter, as well as books and workbooks, seminars,
workshops and consultations.
"Jann
Blackstone-Ford, co-author of "Ex-Etiquette for Parents: Good
Behavior After a Divorce or Separation," says that your ex and
his new wife are operating under the "old school" divorce
premise: there's a "Dad" front and a "Mom" front. "In this case,
Dad has an ally,his new wife, who probably thinks she's doing
the right thing;running a tight ship, taking his child into her
heart, and there's no reason to even talk to the child's
mother," she says.
"But with 50/50 custody arrangements, this premise doesn't
work. The biological parents and stepparents must work together,
she says. Blackstone-Ford suggests you talk to your ex and his
wife, state the problem and offer solutions. "So much of the
time, people who are upset just state what the other does, but
has no suggestion for change." And that creates a power
struggle, she says. You should suggest that you, your ex and his
wife go to mediation to discuss possible solutions,
Blackstone-Ford says.
"Of course, it's possible that your ex and his wife will
refuse to talk to you or cooperate with you. It might be a good
idea to share some resources with them. Ask them politely and
respectfully if they'd be willing to read some articles, books
or interviews (If they won't talk to you, email them!). Be sure
to mention that you'd like them to do this because you believe
i's in the best interest of your daughter.
"Here are a few resources for you, your ex and his wife:
"Saint" Warren Auld,
in his capacity as a Snellville City
Councilman -- who recently announced that he's running for State Rep. Phyllis
Miller's house seat -- oversees the Snellville Police Department. Rita Hardin was
arrested on deranged geek charges. While running for the Gwinnett Commission, Warren Auld was interviewed by an
Atlanta Journal Constitution reporter:
"Auld
echoed the other two candidates on growth, traffic and safety issues, saying
that the police department must have adequate equipment and resources."
"Heeeey, there's something awfly scwewy going on awound
here....Now I gotchya ya wittle old wabbit. I told you I'd get ya didn't I. Fell
for my twap, didn't ya Mr. wabbit. He he he he he. Too smart for ya wasn't I. I
finally caught ya, didn't I...I finally got even with that screwy rabbit.Shh. Be vewy
vewy quiet. I'm hunting wabbits""
-- Elmer Fudd
“Have
you no sense of decency sir, at long last? Have you left no sense of decency?"
-- Special Counsel for the Army Joseph N. Welch, to Senator Joseph R.
McCarthy
"Indeed, he [McCarthy] built his
fame as a bully on TV, and he died there in the celebrated Army vs McCarthy
hearings when a great lawyer, Joseph N Welch, asked him in front of the nation
whether he had no decency left."
Finally, McCarthy "outed" "a member of the legal defense team, Fred Fischer,
at the Army hearings, causing the famous line from Joseph N. Welch, lead defense
attorney "Have you no decency Senator?" After the Army hearings, Senator Stuart
Symington (Democrat, Missouri) stated, " The American people have had a look at
you for six weeks. You are not fooling anyone."
"Why
are we proud? "We are proud, first of all, because from the beginning of this
nation, a man can walk upright, no matter who he is, or who she is. He can walk
upright and meet his friend or his enemy; and he does not feel that because that
enemy may be in a position of great power that he can be suddenly thrown in jail
to rot there without charges and with no recourse to justice. We have the habeas
corpus act, and we respect it." -- President Dwight D. Eisenhower
A puckish Boston lawyer named Joseph N. Welch, "weary of the reckless
accusations, smears and bullying which were McCarthy’s trademarks, shamed him,
demanding, “Have you no sense of decency, sir?” It was Murrow’s See It Now
broadcast which shot McCarthy down, but it was Welch who buried him."
"BTW Atty said if she show up 30 minutes
early and sits in front of the house - I am to call 911."
[...]
"I just sent atty a letter that says something to the effect of (this is not
the actual email) -Atty- Please send
Unibrow's attorney of records a letter informing him that his client is continuing to harass us."
[...]
"Our atty reminded me to be extremely cautious - because
Unibrow has two court cases Crimnal on May 2 and Appeal on May 3 and she always
starts going crazy right before court. He did tell me that if at a ball game and
she came up to try and talk to the kids or DH - we are to say very nicely
"Please do not bother us this is not the time or place. Please leave us alone.
HE said then we are to be the better person and move 5-10ft down the bleachers.
If she follows us or comes right back - call 911. He said that we need to do
that to show the police that we ARE TRYING and she continues to harass us that
way if we do it like he tells us the police will take her away and he has a
better court case against her in the long run. Atty did say that if she
approaches [her children] do NOT hesitate call 911 IMMEDIATELY. If
Convicted Guilty of breaking my stalking TPO it says 1 year min prision time and
10 yrs max prision time and up to $10,000 fines - I hope she truly understands
how seriously this has become. However, our atty is convinced that she will
violate it."
[...]
"The
current Order states that starting next Fri Unibrow can pick-up skids at dismiss
of school. DH does NOT want Unibrow at school beause it is their "safety zone".
Atty and I agree - make the Order state Unibrow is to pick-up skids at school
and return them to school. She is always 30 minutes - 2 hours late and if she
gets a job how will she do this??? Not to mention she got an apartment 1 hour
away??? Our atty says that in a "Contempt" hearing they can pull away all
visitation or make it supervised visitation. Our atty thinks this is the Judge's
way to set her up to fail once again."
[...]
"Our
atty assures us that Unibrow will fail and fail badly - then she will lose
visitation. He said it is much easier to chg visitation than custody. So we
would set her up to fail... UNLESS the Fakegrandparents are finally willing to
step up to the plate!!!" [...]
"Our Judge has been pretty clear all along - "it is in the children's best
interest to have both parents in their life."
[...]
"Well
we have been in court for 4 straight years
how we have afford it...... DH cashed
in his retirement.......I started doing alot of the leg work for atty to cut
down the cost..... refinanced my home.....and bartered. Dh has given our atty
new custom shelving in his office, we have repainted his office, we have
redesigned some of his office space for him, DH has refurbished a bathroom at
his home and atty's wife just got a whole new kitchen - thanks to DH!!"
[...]
"Ky you need to hurry up and
come to Atlanta soon!! You mentioned once you wanted to come here. I'll take
you to see Unibrow so maybe you can tell me what you think. DH has many gay
friends and they all say "she
is" - I have no idea. If you know anything about Atlanta - Unibrow lives in
Decatur area - one of my and DHs
favorite area of town and great eating places."
[...]
"I understand about you NOT wanting access...... but the reality is --- if your
DH is like mine - he is a conflict avoider and Unibrow would run all over him -
which in turn would effect me and my plans.. so I needed to know what was going
on in the skids lives. We get to a point where we feel like our lives are out of
control and TUH is running your life."
[...]
"I total freaked-out and on him. He said, he knows that I am angry with
him - YES I AM HOW IN THE HE!! COULD HE EVER HAVE
MARRIED SOMEONE AS
EVIL AS UNIBROW?????
I
realize he is upset to and I have to remember, which is the hardest thing -
these are HIS kids and no matter what, i have no say. These are the kids that I
love and have cared for for 3 years plus been the only Mother figure in there
life - it kills me. I feel like we are chopping off their little heads and
handing them to the Evil Unibrow on a Silver Platter!!!!...DH
did not go to work today and he will have to be home again tomorrow... it just
all sucks."
ExEtiquette: Don't stew over past or present intimacies. "For the new wife (bonus mom):Everyone has a past.
You dwell on his, you will inevitably become part of it. ( We can't tell you how
many new wives have told us that they just can't get past the fact that their
husband had sex with that woman...let it go.) If you can't get past her
being his ex, try referring to her as the children's mother. That should take
her up a notch or two..." [...]
"Iam at my wits end.
I yelled at my atty - which is also a dear friend and an elder at my church. I
was in tears (I
never get upset)... I told him "What has to happen next? I feel like at this
point if I am lying there bleeding to
death - I have to call him or DH to get permission to call 911 so not as to
upset Unibrow!"
(Note: Here is Warren
Auld's
campaign disclosure, and guess what? The Gwinnett PD
does him proud!)
[...]
"All I kept thinking was "Did DHtake the gun out of the glove compartment?" I
was seriously at the point trying to decide "just to take her outof NOT" which
is scarey in itself."
[So there you have it. Gun-toting angry
folks, like Melissa, driving around town with ammo in their glove compartments
can be "scarey". Good thing I don't live any where near Gwinnett County.]
[...]
"but my favorite
Prosecutor told me the squeaky wheel
get the notice and attention - so I am being SQUEAKY today."
[...]
"We can ONLY pray for Supervised visitation!!!" ....BTW
- yes there will be a party and I will probably wear RED to her
funeral.......... if it only happens soonerthan later it would be no skin off my
back."
[...]
"Our atty explained it like this - one or two things will happen - either one
she will break the PO which is great
for us -OR- we get back in front of the Judge on June 15 and we tell him this
whole PO thing with curbside is
pick-up and staying away from us is working GREAT and he will most likely give
us the 12 months which
would make it a total of 14 months instead of 12."
"Well isn't that special?
Could it be Satan?"
sources say that Melissa is telling folks that the above message
was not
written by her and that I'm an evil, lying baby killer, and so
is Rita.
Get the picture? All one has to do is tell the kiddos that mommy wants
to kill the baby, they believe it, and angry fundy crowds start a pogrom against
her. Could this be why Danny Porter is so vigorously pursuing charges? Heck it
worked for the anti-Semitic masses in Europe for centuries.
Yet more asininity from Melissa Hardin:
"I thought I was going to pee my pants
I laughed so hard
at the officer."
"false imprisonment, terrorizing,
violation of RO - hmmmm.....words of a good atty - those were my attys words
to me as well!!!!! My atty also added STALKING - due to the church incident."... Atty told me she was "falsely
imprisioning me and the children I had with meand causing terror to the
children". He told me to tell the police I WANT a police report and I do not
care if they arrest her. I am to tell
them that I have a RO in place against her. I am to show them the reports from
where she has a pending
criminal case for the church incident and where she attacked me while I was
pregnant. I am to show them the
report of where she bit DH. I am to tell them that she is stalking me and MY
children and I am in fear for their
safety."
And now, per Melissa Hardin,
I'm a lesbian who scares folks in
health food stores?
"I bet her legs and under arms never saw a
razor before. She
was one of those scarey woman you see that you avoid at the Health Food Store.
Our Female Pastor looked
at me and asked "Do you think that could be her girlfriend?" Without thinking I
said "Yea - kind looks like her
last one - I guess she like them like that." Our
PAstor said "I had a feeling
Unibrow was a lesbain but now you
have confirmed it." I had to laugh - I thought everyone knew that about Unibrow.
BTW Unibrow was "yellow" in color again..."
"Apparently there is an organization called the Second
Wives Club. It's supposed to be a support group, but in
reality is more anti-child support and
anti-first wife
anything--something that's fine and dandy until wife number
three comes along (or wife number two can't take it anymore
and gets a divorce).
Does it not occur to any of
these women that a guy who rants about how horrible his ex
was is either still too emotionally attached and hurt to
actually be a true partner/lover, or possibly full of crap?
Not to mention tiresome--for heaven's sake, is there room
for anything else besides free therapy for these guys?"
"Second wife?
Your chance of getting divorced is
approximately 17% higher than it was for his
first wife, and he and she ALSO thought they
were in love at one time. Happily, and
permanently married? Your chance of growing
older and less attractive is 100%, and your
chance of ending up alone as a widow is more
than 80%. Stay-at-home, contently supported
mom? Social security doesn't credit your
efforts, nor does the employment sector, should
you find yourself prematurely alone because of
divorce or early widowhood. "Equal partners?"
Not if you've both borne and undertook primary
responsibility for the children AND contributed
equally financially to the household. And
whether you did or didn't, you're in for a rude
surprise if you get divorced. "
"What's really interesting is when a Second Wife ends up getting
divorced herself. These women find out that the way she and her
husband went after his ex-wife is exactly how her
soon-to-be-ex-husband will go after her. She had helped him find a
fathers' rights lawyer and fathers' rights group for "support." She
filled out his paperwork and helped him try to reduce his child
support obligation to his ex-wife in "fairness" to any children she,
the Second Wife, had with him. These women like to argue that, in
intact families, parents cut down their spending when a new child
comes along, so they reason that ex-wives should see their child
support lowered when the Second Wife has a child with her husband.
Sometimes Second Wives help their husbands try to get custody of the
kids from the previous marriage/relationship. When these women get
divorced, they suffer the exact same treatment from their formerly
supportive husbands they had given to the ex-wife. Sometimes he has
a potention Third Wife who acts the same way she did towards the
ex-wife when she was married to the guy. It's interesting to see
when it happens. They frequently have a quick turn-around in their
thinking, and sometimes even befriend the ex-wife - because they
finally understand how harmful their actions have been. Now, their
actions come and bite them on the ass."
> this. The Second
Wives
Club shares tips and techniques for dealing with
> these problems both emotionally, rationally and
legally. Stephanie
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Stephanie, I don't think you have read the
Second
Wives
lately, as
recently they are just about the most bitter
people I know. Thier most
recent series of rants had to do with the accountability
of Child Support
Payments. They actually expected the First Wife to list
and account for
all the money sent each month.
This plus the attempts by them to totally demonize the
first wife shows
that they have a serious problem, one of not being able
to deal with the
first wife. The though of getting used goods is
apparently too much for
them. The reason the goods are used are always the
first wifes fault. One
woman actually is trying to help her Husband who has
been accused of child
molestation get full custody of the children. I
am not saying he did it.
I am saying that it bear's some looking into. Perhaps
he is indeed
innocent, as he has not been convicted. However, I
don't think I would
help that person get full custody untill I knew for
sure. Also I certainly
would not have any kids with them.
Of course that is just my opinion. I could
be wrong.
Then there's the persnickety "Runnaway
Bride" story on lying to the police. Gwinnett District Attorney Danny Porter
had this to say about
filing false police
reports:
Porter said falsely reporting a crime is the only charge that fits
the information he has
received in Wilbanks' case. False report of a
crime is a misdemeanor offense that
carries a maximum 12-month jail
sentence and a $1,000 fine.
[...]
And this:
"I heard reports that she just panicked and then ran," Porter said.
"But if we learn that this was a premeditated act, that would push me
closer to pressing charges."
And this:
Porter said Wilbanks could face a misdemeanor charge of
false report of a crime or a felony charge of false
statements. The misdemeanor carries a penalty of up to a
year in jail; five years in prison is the maximum sentence
for the felony.
"If there's criminal responsibility, that's something
I have to do something about," Porter said, adding that no
decision would be made Sunday. "I think it's really going to
depend on the circumstances on how this was done."
But will charges be filed against Jennifer Wilbanks? Not
necessarily. Sen. Joe Burton, who formerly held a split state senate
district of Gwinnett and DeKalb, told me a long time ago when I first
started investigating custody switching, "Think of it as a big ol' spider web
with each one [politicians] protecting each others' backsides."
Well I was wrong, Danny Porter did prosecute Wilbanks.
"DULUTH, Ga. - Runaway Bride Jennifer Wilbanks thinks Brad Pitt and
Angelina Jolie, currently starring in the blockbuster "Mr. and Mrs.
Smith," should portray her and her fiancee, John Mason, in the scheduled
television movie of Wilbanks' life. Speaking from a Verizon pay phone in
an AMC cineplex in her hometown, Duluth, Georgia, Wilbanks told NBC's
Katie Couric that she had just seen "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" and that Pitt
and Jolie would be "absolutely perfect" for the roles of Wilbanks and
Mason.
"People always say how much Angelina resembles me," said Wilbanks,
32. "I even got that several times on a recent bus trip I took to Las
Vegas. Of course, I'm a little taller and bustier than she is, but I'm
sure she'll be able to work around that. As for Brad, if he put on
eighty pounds, he'd be a dead ringer for my Johnny."
[...]
"Wilbanks phoned police claiming she had been abducted and sexually
assaulted by "an Hispanic man who looked like Cheech (Marin)." She later
recanted, though she still maintained that "an Hispanic man" had made "sucky
noises" at her in the Albuquerque bus station.
Will Andy and Melissa get a movie deal?
Can't
wait to see it as a made-for-tv movie coming maybe on O or Lifetime?
Kirstie Alley can play Melissa, and Kirstie's ex-husband, Parker Stevenson, can play Andy.
After all, they had a hotly contested divorce
and custody case, and they look a lot like Andy
and Melissa. They'd be perfect.
More
from the Atlanta Journal Constitution:
"Both Wilbanks and Mason come from deeply
rooted, well-connected families in the area.
The name Mason carries a great deal of weight in Duluth. Mason's father,
Claude, is among four sons of the late Dr. Miles H. Mason Jr., who was the
first surgeon at Joan Glancy Memorial Hospital. M.H. Mason Elementary is
named for the surgeon.
John Mason's father, attorney Claude Mason, was mayor of Duluth from 1978
until 1983 and is now a municipal judge in Norcross.
In Gainesville, Wilbanks' mother, Joyce Parrish, was the longtime owner of
Satterfield's, a sporting goods store. Her uncle, Mike Satterfield, is the
former fire chief."
If Andy and Melissa's actions don't rise to the same level of filing
repeated premeditated false reports, I don't know what does. According to Rita,
when she tried to visit with her 5-year-old son, they had their so-called "fake
grandparents" in place to restrict access, in direct violation of the Consent
Order. Rita's son was strategically positioned on the "fake" grandmother's lap
and she held a firm grip on the boy refusing to release him, despite requests by Rita to do so. Very clever
positioning. Melissa and Andy allegedly stood a distance away shouting at Rita
that she wasn't supposed to be at the ball park, and that she needed to leave.
Later, Melissa wrote on the 2nd Wives Club boards that Rita was trying to kidnap
the boy. She also described Rita's relocation to Nashville as a kidnapping.
Reasoning that if the facts of the custody wranglings were known to the Assistant D.A., Cari Johanson,
who prosecuted the first case, she would be appalled. Maybe I watch too much
CSI? What about an in-depth investigation, one not based in implausible accusations made by an
apparently jealous step-mother, with all too much to gain by obliterating the
first wife from the lives of her two young sons?
I asked Johanson what part of Judge Mitchum's comment that
"the wrong people were arrested" that she didn't understand. Johanson said she
didn't hear that, but since the judge dismissed the charges, her office dropped
the case stating that her office acted appropriately. She explained the 'system'
over and over again while I kept trying to get a word in edgewise. When I finally got a
chance to explain the first false report that Melissa made regarding the church
incident at St. Thomas Moore's pre-school tea party -- that four teachers later
said in under oath testimony that Rita had not assaulted Melissa -- and it was that Melissa
who caused an
uproar upsetting the children causing Rita's son to dissolve in tears. Then Johanson
started to listen.
"I was abused for 13 years. He did have a magnitude of power over me in
that time. Where was the law then? Where was the protection that is
available now? He beat me the last time, and I called Gwinnett police. They
just told me to go, to leave the house, and nothing more. I had bruises on
my arms and throat, and they did not want to get involved.
"At the time I had a doctor tell me I would die with this man if I did
not get out, and it was best to leave my 7 year old child with him as he
never abused her. You see I had lost 40 pounds in six weeks, and was getting
sicker. When I got the nerve to go, people at my office had to put me in the
trunks of different cars everyday because he was parked out front. The
police were called several times but they never came. After 7 months I
finally did get my divorce, but not my child back, and was ordered to pay
child support. The threats were still coming by phone, he knew everytime I
moved, if I changed jobs, and who I was with. The morning after the tornado
came through Atlanta he took my child and dissappeared. When he wanted more
money, he had the state he was in contact Gwinnett county, and I had no one
to help me. He came into my home, stole from me, and left the state. I found
my jewelry pawned in the town he moved to, but no one cares about that. I am
still paying child support on a 19 year old, but that seems to be fair to
everyone except me...the truth means nothing. He has scarredme for life, and
I can never forgive him or the county of Gwinnett."
My comments in blue. Court records in black.
[I have transcribed the following certified orders, of
which I have scanned from certified copies from DeKalb County. The Orders
follow.]
IT IS ORDERED that the hearing for a Protective order in the above
styled case be continued and rescheduled to June 15th, 2005 at the Dekalb County
Courts, Decatur, Georgia.
IT IS FURTHER ORDERED that the Ex Parte Protective Order issued on April 5th
2005 in the above styled case is continued until the hearing date of June 15,
2005 and all provisions of the Ex Parte Protective Order shall remain in full
effect with the following modifications: That Ms. Rita Hardin shall have
all rights to visitation with the children belonging to Rita and Douglas Hardin
presently granted under the Gwinnett County Final Decree For Divorce, including
a decree at any extracurricular event the children may have during her
non-custodial periods. Rita Hardin shall have no direct contact with Melissa
Hardin or [her children] .* The parties herein
shall not prevent or forbid the children of Rita Hardin and Douglas Hardin from
communicating with either parent at an extracurricular event. Pickup for
visitation by Rita Hardin shall be at the curb side of Douglas Hardin's
residence. rather than at the door, if pickup is to be at the residence.
* except while exercising visitation rights or at extra-curricular
events during a non-custodial period the parties shall maintain a distance of
100 yards of one another.
"A child doesn't like the feeling that he or she
must act as a messenger between hostile parents or carry one adult's secrets or
accusations about another. Children want parents to talk with each other so
that the messages are communicated the right way and so that children don't feel
like they are going to mess up.
Parents must take the responsibility to talk directly with each other,
especially if the topic is likely to anger the other parent. It is unfair to
make your child carry messages to your "ex" because you find it too awkward or
aggravating to do so yourself. It is also poor parenting to show by example to
your child that you can resolve a problem with another person by not
communicating or to suggest to a child that the other parent is such a monster
that you cannot speak or be civil with each other."
Melissa on Rita's children:
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"SS5 then said "You can give me back
to my Mom"... I laughed and said "I do not think so, I have tons
invested in you"
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"This is the easy part........the first game is at 11:30 and it is SS7's game
- which mean we will have SS5 with
us. SS5 is the one that WANTS to see his Mom and will try to leave us to go to
her. He is not and has never
been allowed to do anything at the ball park but sit in our lap or beside us."
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mommy all the time." 4/26/2005 3:52 PM
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Re: The TPOs: Unibrow at skids school....
"SS7 actual mentions all the time "Mom says all you do is have her
arrested". We always have to say - sweetie we do NOT have her arrested and we
would do anything not to
have her arrested in front of you"
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Unibrow in jail for atleast 9 days and it gets better..
"I think she hung herself this time.
So I do not have to look over my shoulder - get a package - or worry until NEXT
Tuesday. I wonder if she
notified her employer???? I made DH call our atty and ask him to call her atty
to ck and make sure the boy's
cat is being taken care of during her jail time!"
Oops the cat died while Unibrow was in jail. Somebody call the ASPCA!
Who would make this shit up?
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Posts: 2,600 "24 hours later and Unibrow is still in jail!.....
It still says "No Bond" by her name. I called the police to ask if the report
was ready about the incident
Saturday. The lady checked and came back and said "You might want to cal
tomorrow - it might not be ready
for a while". Unsure what that means. Our atty did tell DH that she could
be in there for days. I guess she is
waiting for a bond hearing - I am not sure you can get out on bond for this in
our state. She currently is being held on 2 counts of Felony Aggravated Stalking -
16-5-91.
(a) A person commits the offense of aggravated stalking when such person, in
violation of a bond to keep the
peace posted pursuant to Code Section 17-6-110, temporary restraining order,
temporary protective order,
permanent restraining order, permanent protective order, preliminary injunction,
good behavior bond, or
permanent injunction or condition of pretrial release, condition of probation,
or condition of parole in effect
prohibiting the behavior described in this subsection, follows, places under
surveillance, or contacts another
person at or about a place or places without the consent of the other person for
the purpose of harassing and
intimidating the other person.
(b) Any person convicted of a violation of subsection (a) of this Code section
shall be guilty of a felony and,
upon conviction thereof, shall be punished by imprisonment for not less than one
nor more than ten years and
by a fine of not more than $10,000.00. The provisions of subsection (d) of Code
Section 16-5-90 apply to
sentencing for conviction of aggravated stalking."
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I am so caddy and I know it - so since that is out of the way...... DH wore a
tie and looked so sexy! Myself - I was in a blue skirt
mid-knee - cream silk blouse and a blue vest that matched skirt - not
professional - but not
too "momish either" - very much my style which is "tailored" - I wore my Nine
west pointy toe pumps that
matched the skirt - nude hose - very pulled together look.
Unibrow must have throwm the maroon shoes in the trash - no sign of them in 1
year. She had on a drk blue
short sleeved scooped neck sweater, a black print silk with little white accents
on a wrap skirt - white tights -
yes white and they were thick thights - not hose and drk blue square toe klunky
heels (the kind you wear with
pants not a skirt) and pearls. Okay to be honest this was the first time I have
not seen her look "Manish" - her
suits are so masculine normally. The skirt & sweater are things that look
exactly like I would wear - but NOT
togther - they did not match and the white tights - looked like she was an old
RN.
We were due there at 9 AM - she arrived alone. Around 11:30 some woman walked in
and sat with her - a
very unattractive woman - small petite woman - remember Unibrow is about 5'10" 175 - they looked like Mutt & Jeff. The woman wore no
make up - she was in a black long skirt & longsleeve black sweater (it is 78
degrees here) and wore small glasses - curly hair every where and her face
begged for some powder, lipstick
and mascara - she was definetaly a "natualist" - I bet her legs and under arms
never saw a razor before. She
was one of those scarey woman you see that you avoid at the Health Food Store.
Our Female Pastor looked
at me and asked "Do you think that could be her girlfriend?" Without thinking I
said "Yea - kind looks like her
last one - I guess she like them like that." Our PAstor said "I had a feeling
Unibrow was a lesbain but now you
have confirmed it." I had to laugh - I thought everyone knew that about Unibrow.
BTW Unibrow was "yellow" in color again - she looked very ill and very very bad."
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I think a house just fell on Unibrow. My aim must be getting better.
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That reminds
me of a bumper sticker I once saw... "I miss my ex but my aim is getting better"
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Susan - I
told DH about the bumper sticker and he wants to know if you can buy them by the
dozen....
also Tink he
would have given you numerous targets ahead of time if he'd known you just need
a little
practice (btw
DH sends you hugs)
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Re:
24 hours later and Unibrow is still in jail!.....
I'm just
amazed at how far she's pushed this "martyr'd nc mom" act. It sure blew up in
her own face didn't it ?
How this
plays out for you in the long run is yet to be seen. I have a feeling it's not
going to be good news for
HER though
(given her documented actions).
At least I
get to live vicariously through your antics with Uni. Who knows WHEN the house
will topple on zelda
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Well, that was amusing.
Now, what happened??
Jen
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Re: Face to Face with Unibrow - Clothing & new GF?
Sorry I posted the up date already.......... that was the report for the
"Fashion Police" aka Heather - I guess I
need to get a cell that takes pics.
I posted under Dealing with the EX the ruling - but we did get the TPOs extended
until June 15th next court
date for us on the TPOs we will have a hearing that day - all of this was at
Unibrow's attys request due to her
upcoming Criminal Trial State vs Unibrow about the church incident. It was a
50/50 shot and her atty did not
want to take the chance of her being "guilty" and have a TPO against her at the
Judge's request before the
Criminal Case because her rap sheet already looks bad enough. They did add that
she can come for
visitation according to the Order but it is "curbside pick-up" and she can
attend extra activities aka Baseball
but she is not to be near us or have contact with us - but she can have contact
with the skids at functions -
funny thing is the skids never leave our side. SS7 refuses to be near her and
SS5 is to young to go running
100 yrds from us - esp when she has tried to kidnapp him once in the past 6
months at the bowling alley - we
will keep tight reins on him.
Our atty is preparing us for the next xourt battle (after the Appeal) - we all
know she is preparing to go after us
for Parent Alienation.
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Re: Face to Face with Unibrow - Clothing & new GF?
So she claims to be a lesbian but she's obsessed with Dh...she's NOT a lesbian!
She's a lay-a-way! (please
see my new thread for explanation)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by bunny
So she claims to be a lesbian but she's obsessed with Dh...she's NOT a lesbian!
She's a lay-a-way!
(please see my new thread for explanation)
Okay Ky give in and tell me what that MEANS!
I wish she had gay male friends - but if you recall her only male friend is
Homer from the Hood. I often wonder
IF she is still gay - can you just go back and forth? She had a GF that is why
DH and she divorced - soon after
the divorce GF went bye bye - a few years later she had "Susan" after about 9
months "Susan" moved to MN.
There has been no one else - but I know Unibrow wants DH, Fakegrandparents say
Unibrow wants DH and
our pastor said Unibrow cannot keep her eyes off of DH - so maybe she is into
men too???
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I give her a week. Oh how I would of loved to be there to see her!
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Okay - I posted this at 4:30 PM and then I lost DSL service (I did not even get
a chnace to ck for mistakes I
had written). I left here with all the kids & DH at 4:30 to take DS15 to the
bowling alley. We dropped him off
and came back home - expecting to find Unibrow waiting. There was some traffic
but we managed to get
back at 4:50. DH and I planned on going back to the bowling alley and watch DS
bowl then to dinner..........
could we do that???????? NO ! Remember Unibrow is to be here at 5:00 PM. BTW
Atty said if she show up
30 minutes early and sits in front of the house - I am to call 911.
Unibrow was not here. I finally left to go ck on DS at the bolwing alley at 5:20
PM - I had to leave DH here. I
get to the entrance of our subdivision and Unibrow is turning in - she drives by
me - I guess it hit her that was
me in the white Suburban....... so she hits her brakes and throws her mini van
in reverse. I was sitting there
trying to pull out on to the main road. I guess it hit her like a ton of bricks
"I should not do that she has a PO
against me" - she put it into drive and went to the house. I called DH the
minute I saw her and was giving him
play by play action. She beeped in on his cell phone - he did not answer - she
then called the house and said
she was there. However the funny thing is she says on the msg is "Andy, this is
Unibrow it is 5:25 and I am to
get the kids at 5:00 for visitation and I am here. CLICK" DH said he is saving
that msg.
So of course she BLOCKS our drive way on pick up and drop off. She exits her car
- she does not come up to
the door. The PO says she has "Curb side pick-up" - I should have read more
clearly - I wanted it to say "Curb
side pick-up and drop off. Parent is not to exit the vehicle" So I am sure there
will be issues on this - plus no
where did we say she could NOT block us in our drive way. I just sent atty a
letter that says something to the
effect of (this is not the actual email) -
Atty-
Please send Unibrow's attorney of records a letter informing him that his client
is continuing to harass us. You
might need to remind him that today the Judge put in place TPOs for an
additional 60 days. She purposely
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My comments in Blue:
Note: Judge Mangum ordered that at no time [with the
exception of extra-curricular events and while exercising visitation rights]
'will' Rita Hardin have direct contacts with Melissa Hardin, [or Melissa
Hardin's children].
No mention is made of Rita contacting Douglas Hardin in Mangum's order.
The TPO is all about Rita not contacting his 2nd wife, Melissa. Yet, Andy filed a
separate aggravated stalking warrant. Note to Andy: You're no longer a
party to this matter. Doesn't that just make you want to go file yet another
action? Maybe you can get your
Church organized to go on an old fashioned mob induced witch hunt expedition and burn Rita at the stake? For more on organizing against mom,
go to the 2nd Wives Club.
They plot and post under the moniker, MissyM, and make disparaging [and libelous
remarks I might add] on how Rita and I are ugly lesbians, and refer to one of Rita's
African American friends as "Homer from the Hood" and chit-chat endlessly on how
to throw mamma into jail. Just another day in paradise.
In Melissa's words, that, "We can ONLY
pray for supervised visitations!!!"
"Men never do evil so
completely and cheerfully as when they do it from religious conviction."
-- Blaise Pascal
"I believe in one God, and no more; and I hope
for happiness beyond this life. I believe in the equality of humans; and I
believe that religious duties consist in doing justice, loving mercy, and
endeavoring to make our fellow creatures happy."
-- Thomas Paine
"Puritanism - the haunting
fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy."
"But the whole thing, after all, may be put very
simply. I believe that it is better to tell the truth than to lie. I believe
that it is better to be free than to be a slave. And I believe that it is better
to know than be ignorant.
-- H. L. Mencken
"What a man believes upon grossly
insufficient evidence is an index into his desires -- desires of which he
himself is often unconscious. If a man is offered a fact which goes against his
instincts, he will scrutinize it closely, and unless the evidence is
overwhelming, he will refuse to believe it. If, on the other hand, he is offered
something which affords a reason for acting in accordance to his instincts, he
will accept it even on the slightest evidence. The origin of myths is explained
in this way."
"I do not think that the real reason
why people accept religion is anything to do with argumentation. They accept
religion on emotional grounds. One is often told that it is a very wrong thing
to attack religion, because religion makes men virtuous. So I am told; I have
not noticed it."
-- Bertrand Russell
"A man's ethical behavior
should be based effectually on sympathy, education, and social ties; no
religious basis is necessary. Man would indeed be in a poor way if he had to be
restrained by fear of punishment and hope of reward after death."
-- Albert Einstein
"I do not find in orthodox
Christianity one redeeming feature."
-- Thomas Jefferson
So she prays for supervised visitation...what pray tell
is denying children a relationship with their mother Christian?
More likely, all this TPOing is more about a proactive
retaliation for filing an appeal:
Due to the fact that 'Move
Aways' or Relocation cases are the hottest topic in family law circles these
days, much hinges on the outcome of the Hardin custody case:
Also see Relocation after Bodne. Interesting this was a father relocating not
far away who was, in my humble opinion given the sad facts in this case, within his rights to do so. Sheesh.
He only
moved from Carrollton, GA to Birmingham, Alabama, which is not that far away. But, then the
Hardin case is similar. Rita Hardin moved to Nashville, not that far away from Gwinnett County. Astonishingly, I have reports of women moving from Gwinnett to
Cobb County and losing custody. It's hell to drive down I-285 during rush
hour.
According to the Leadership Council, "Critics suggest that the ruling
will encourage custody re-litigation and may lead to the renewal of hostilities
related to earlier custody decision between parents".
During oral arguments on Tuesday [5/3/05] at the Georgia
Court of Appeals, after Judge M. Yvette Miller asked if there any pending
actions in the lower courts [as in the appeal of Judge Franzen's custody order
switching custody to Andy]. Andy's attorney, Warren Auld, went off on a tangent
about pending domestic violence matters which had nothing to do with the appeal.
The judges had already denied a motion by Rita's attorney to have new evidence
admitted. Auld used up most of his time arguing about the TPOs--not that they
rise to any level or definition of domestic violence--but he prattled on until Miller stopped
him, and explained that she meant lower court actions. Miller seemed
surprised that Rita didn't get custody restored after she moved back to Atlanta
saying, "The Appellant moved back, wouldn't that be sufficient?"
The move to Nashville and the subsequent return to Atlanta occurred before Bodne.
Prior to Bodne, a custodial parent had a prima facie right to retain custody
with the best interests of the children standard still intact. Prior to
Rita's relocation, she consulted with an attorney of record in the Scott v. Scott appeal
that reversed a prior ruling, in Carr v. Carr--now a self-executing change in
custody upon relocation was unenforceable. So, Rita reasoned that upon
advice of counsel, she could move to Nashville. Wrong.
Auld also erred in his arguments saying that Rita moved back to Atlanta after
Bodne. McFadden corrected him. Auld dithered on about how the court ruled in the
best interests of the children. That is until Judge G. Allen Blackburn decided he had
heard enough, announced recess, stood up and left the courtroom.
According the the
American Judges Association
guys like Andy (Doug) are more likely to take custody away from their
ex-wives. It's all about control:
Threats to Harm or Take Away Children: One of the most common
reasons given for resuming an abusive relationship is the fear that the
abuser will act on the threats of taking the children from the victim.
Studies show that batterers have been able to convince authorities
that the victim is unfit or undeserving of sole custody in approximately
70% of challenged cases.
Financial Blackmail: A batterer often controls the victim's
finances, denying access to money. Financial battering may range from
not allowing the victim to earn money to preventing education or access
to work. If the victim is currently working, the abuser will make
threats to destroy the means of earning a living.
And here is what the guardian ad litem had to say:
"I'm going to go ahead
and burn my bridges right now and tell you that I think that the behavior of
both the parents in this case has been ridiculous, that, you know, he's calling
the police, he's trying to get TPOs, she herself said she put in for a TPO.
[Acually, Rita said she did NOT file a TPO]
[...]
"These children see that tension,
they
They're all going to end up with stomach ailments and nervous disorders and in
counseling and, you know, shooting people at high school if you people do not
get along better for the -- for the benefit of these kids. You have got to grow
up and get this animosity you feel toward each other behind you and move
on."
Vague and Unsupported Claims
More insanity from the transcript:
Melissa: I never contact Rita, and Rita never contacts me.
Melissa: I'm not involved. That's between Andy and Rita. I do not get involved.
...I said that between -- that's communication between Rita and Andy, that's not
between me and Rita. ...When you ask how often do I see her. I see her every
time we drop the children off and she walks out and gets them.
Q. Okay. But to have a conversation with her?
Melissa: Very rare. Maybe two or three times ever.
Q. How about on the telephone?
Melissa: Never, unless she says, can I speak with someone, and then I hand
the phone over. There is no communication.
Q. Why did you call the police?
Melissa. Because I wanted Rita to leave me alone, stop harassing me, stop
calling my ex-husband, to stop causing disruption in my life and in my son's
life.
Here's testimony on the first of many false reports on when Melissa called the cops to St. Thomas Moore:
Melissa: I did call Warren's [Auld] office. ...it's protocol in Warren's
office if there's any kind of physical contact to call the police immediately.
[But, according to the teachers' testimony, there was NO physical contact.
Melissa lied to the police.]
What a liar.
Rita was not convicted for assaulting Melissa. Teachers testified that it didn't
happen.
Amazing,
Melissa and Andy didn't even have to appear before a judge to get their TPOs. In
Melissa Hardin's own words:
"DH and I arrived there at 9:00 am
and we were there for 4 hours. We went to get the paper work they told DH
to fill out info for "Family Violence Petition" and they told me to fill it out
for "Stalking Pettition"..... well than
goodness I am a prepared person....for her Simple Assault of me while I was
pregnant volunteering at school.
We went up to courtroom - they already had our paper work. They FINALLY called
our name we walk up and
they handed us our paper work back and informed us that we would not be seeing
the Judge.... DH was
dumbfounded and said "WHY?" We were then told because after reading it the Judge
did NOT want to see
us - he signed it and it was APPROVED!! We were hoping for one or the other but
we got both!! ...I would
love for her to break it in the next 2 weeks."
[...]T
his
isn't the way joint custody, shared parenting, equal access to both parents are
supposed to work. I smell a Father's Are Parent's Too (FAPT) rat at work.
"DH
just read the paperwork.....Unibrow is not allowed to contact either of us in
any way until AFTER a hearing
- it clearly states no phone cals, no emails and no letters. We had NO clue -
which means she cannot send
any stupid emails for 2 weeks!! It is Spring Break next week and it is GREAT - I
seriously did not mean to ban
her from having no contact with the boys. Matter of fact it clearly states that
she cannot have any contact with
the DH's minor children and cannot contact them - this means even if at their
school. DH says he is not sure
he would pitch a fit if the Unibrow goes up to the skids school and sees them at
lunch - okay I'd be livid
because to me it would be another example of her NOT following a Court Order."
So much for joint custody, shared
parenting and equal access.
Q. And why would you have called your ex-husband?
Melissa: Because he was a police officer for 14 years, and I was very upset, and
you know, I want to know what my legal rights were here because, actually, I
wanted to take out a restraining order against Rita and I wanted to know if I
could do that because I couldn't get ahold of your office, I -- I couldn't get
ahold of you [Warren Auld] personally. [So, then why did
she call the police?]
Q. And then you called your ex-husband?
Melissa:
Yes, I did.
Q. What did he tell you?
Melissa: He told me yes, to call the police immediately to have her leave me
alone and that he didn't want to -- he's already upset -- she's already upset
our son bad enough.
Q. Did you know that you could've gone, had you
wanted to, to apply for a warrant without calling the
police?
Melissa: No, I did not.
Q. Your ex-husband didn't tell you that?
Melissa: No, he told me to call the police immediately. ...He said that what she
did was assault and that nobody's to touch anyone unless they have permission to
touch them.
Q. And you thought it was worth upsetting the school and upsetting [Rita's son] to go
ahead and call the police and get them out there on the scene?
Melissa: I don't think I upset the school. Actually, if anything, I prevented
the police officer from entering the school. He was just in the parking lot.
[Melissa called 911, and Rita's son burst into tears when he and his classmates
saw her detained by the police.]
Q. All right. Now, did you want Rita arrested?
Melissa: No. Matter of fact, the police -- actually he asked me what her
description was, I told him. He asked where she was, I said, in the cafeteria,
and he said, I'm going to go talk to her. I said, there's children in there, you
can't go in there, you know, and upset the people right now. And I said -- You
know, I actually made it very clear that I did not want her arrested right then
[emphasis added].
Q. Okay. Did you ever go to a court over this issue?
Melissa: Yes, I did.
Q. Did you ever ask for a court event to take place?
Melissa:
No, I did not. I actually was contacted by DeKalb County -- I mean by Decatur
City. ...Inspector Schran called me wanting to know did I want her arrested.
[I'm so sure.]
Q. And what is that document called?
Mellisa: It's a Consent Agreement.
Q. And you had indicated you wanted to get a restraining order. What was your
understanding of the intent of this Consent Agreement?
Melissa: It just says that she's to have no violent contact with me.
Melissa: She moved my arm.
Q. She moved your arm. And that was as the tea party was commencing.
The scanned certified copy of
Judge Mangum's order was temporarily removed because it contained the names of Melissa Martinelli-Hardin's
children. I used my handy dandy Adobe Photoshop to scribble over their names.
See below.
Warren Auld made a big stink about it in his motion to dismiss Rita's emergency
motion for a temporary order and petition of contempt of prior orders, etc. Then
he blamed Rita for
encouraging
continual contact with Douglas A. Hardin and Melissa Hardin through the
publication of their names and the names and addresses of their children on the
Internet, "creating a grave risk for their safety." I never published their
addresses. Didn't have their stinking address. Warren Auld lied. Okay, I admit
that I posted this consent order on this web site, but it doesn't contain any
addresses.
Melissa Hardin-Martinelli was the one who posted her own son's and daughter's
names and pictures on the Internet repeatedly over a span of several years. As
for Rita encouraging or helping me with the web site. That's another lie. I
started work on this web site, when I learned that she was in jail. I have
written, participated in news stories, and worked on web sites over the past 10
years. Since the press covers some stories and not others, I blog on for
justice. Nobody told me to do it, and while some wish I wouldn't, it's about
truth, justice and the American way. Some custody cases are so outrageous that they need to be
exposed to a little sunshine. See
here,
here,
here,
here,
here and
here. Rita had nothing
to do with this web site. I got this order from the DeKalb County record room:
The CA NOW Family Court Report
found discriminatory practices that denied
women due process. It found that the "court system uses extrajudicial personnel
to make decisions where judges and evidence codes and procedures should be
used." It found that the Family Court System is overburdened, resulting in
cursory reviews and incompetent handling of cases.
Every time women have
made a gain in the family laws, whether married, divorced or single, if they
had children, the fathers-rights backlash has responded. Proportionately, women
have got poorer and poorer financially, and more and more constrained in their
freedom, while fathers-rights groups have got enacted laws and amendments to
laws that more and more will keep the mother of/and any child of theirs within
their control, given that they now cannot do that through preventing divorce.
"Use the court system to wear down your ex...Keep
the playing field uneven...Harrass
your ex, both in person and via the court system"
[Send her directly to
jail do not pass go.]
[...]
"Cause
your kids to bond with people in your camp, so the judge will think twice about
taking them away from their new loving relationships"
[Bring in "fake grandparents." Even though you didn't spend a lick of time going
to church in the past -- or that much time taking care of the kiddos while you
were married to their mom -- and objected to your ex-wife sending the kiddos to
Catholic school and were a Catholic before the divorce, start going to Saint
Warren Auld's church. Get the kiddos involved in sporting activities: then call
911 and have her arrested when the ex-wife shows up to watch them play. And as
Alice wrote in 'Dream? Nightmare? You Decide.' get a 'bulldozer' and take away
their sandbox and while you're at it don't forget to kick some sand in the
ex-wife's face!]
"Saint" Warren Auld,
"I total freaked-out and on him. He said, he knows that I am angry with
him - YES I AM HOW IN THE HE!! COULD HE EVER HAVE
and so
is Rita. 
Can't
wait to see it as a made-for-tv movie coming maybe on O or Lifetime? 
